Monday, May 14, 2018

To my dear love, You are the fucking man !


You are the fucking man! you work hard, you provide us with everything we want and need and you deserve to be lazy everyday when you come home. sometimes as a wife whether you work a 9-5 or stay at home we get frustrated feeling like WE DO EVERYTHING. we take care of the kids, we take care of the cleaning, house duties, dinner etc. while our husbands get to go off to work with no children and what we assume as no worries. today i took a second(more like 2 hours) to really think about my husbands perspective in this marriage and family. what does he do for me? What does he do for our children, our dogs, our house? how does he feel about working 12 hour days in between his 24 hour firefighter shift? what are his thoughts while he is on the road or at the firehouse. The truth is I don't fucking know and the honest truth is i sit home and assume that he isn't worried about SHIT. He's got a clear mind because he isn't with the kids, or the dogs or dealing with a messy house. I thought to myself today "what a selfish bitch i am for assuming and actually believing that my husband doesn't do anything or think of anything."  so to my dear love, YOU ARE THE FUCKING MAN:

you work so hard to give me what i want which was to stop working and take care of our amazing kids and dogs. You NEVER say no to me. (he rarely ever says no to anything i ask for). You stay up and make sure we spend time together even when I'm cranky and frustrated over little things. You come home and help me when i SHOULD have the house in order but i decided to stay in bed and binge on Netflix. You tell me to rest on days you see and know i didn't sleep well while you still go off to work. you love me when I'm severely depressed and imbalanced and somehow manage to cope with it. Our children get everything they need and want. my happiness and their happiness come before yours. you are an amazing hands on parent and emotionally supportive parent when i am incapable of being one. you are the fucking man. you are the man of this house. you are the man in my life. you are the love of my life. 


I will pick up any dirty sock you leave on the floor, put any cup you leave on the dresser in the sink, and put away and tools you leave out any fucking day and every day for the rest of our lives together. 
My husband marching in the parade &
our son ran out to give him water.


62 comments:

  1. Such a sweet and thoughtful post. I guess sometimes when we're swept up in our own stuff it's tempting to assume that other people might not care as much. I think people just have a different way showing how they care.

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    1. thank you so much for commenting. we as individuals are so different in the way we share and express ourselves but thats the beauty of life

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  2. Wow, what a great appreciation post for your man. I hope that he was also able to read and see this. I think that it's essential for a couple in a relationship to appreciate each other for everything that each does. I enjoyed reading this.

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    1. thank you for commenting! he did get a chance to read it and was very appreciative.

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  3. He sounds very devoted and appreciative of you and vice versa. Thanks for sharing your story. I have a high respect for firefighters.

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    1. thank you for commenting. hes an awesome person and he says thank you for your appreciation towards firefighters.

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  4. Such a nice post with appreciation for the man in your life. It's nice to not take the little things for granted!

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    1. thank you for commenting. i always find the little things make me the happiest.

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  5. This is sweet! I feel the same about my husband. He's in the military and works CRAZY hours. He rarely says no to me as well. I mean, he does roll my eyes when I walk in with many Target bags, but he accepts it.

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    1. haha thank you for commenting. Target is a serious weakness. i go in for one thing come out with 5. and tell your husband thank you for his service!

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  6. Father is really a best man in the world. No one can replace. I miss my father,

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    1. thank you for commenting. and sending my condolences.

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  7. Such a great tribute! I found myself convicted by many of your words: I often take my husband for granted but he is the glue that holds our family together and he is such a an excellent, hands on, loving, and patient father. Thank you for reminding me that men need to be celebrated as well!

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    1. thank you for commenting! im happy to give a reminder! husbands are awesome and marriage is such a beautiful sacred intimate union and from time to time i have to take a step back and re balance myself in this marriage and remember that he needs love too. its not just about me.

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  8. Love this! It's so easy to take the ones we love for granted. Kudos to you for sharing this so publicly.

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    1. Thank you for commenting ! I’ve seen a lot of posts about mothers and wives that I figured why not thank the fathers and husbands who also do so much. Marriage is a partnership

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  9. This is such a nice and loving way to appreciate your significant other, I am sure he really loved this and would cherish it.

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    1. Thank you for commenting! He enjoyed reading it and even without sharing something like this so publicly I try my best to show him appreciation by directly and specifically telling him what I’m thankful for whenever he does something around the house or I’m able to spend the day with my kids doing something fun and costly it’s because of him and how hard he works

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  10. You do seem to love your husband and your husband love you too. Nice! It is ideal, and i think you had a perfect husband coz some would just sit back and relax when they reach home!

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    1. Thank you for commenting. Yes we ended up being a perfect match although not every day of marriage is perfect. The key to a successful partnership is communication so I always make sure to communicate what I might need help with that day so he is aware of it. I don’t hold many expectations just because I know he’s exhausted when he comes home.

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  11. It's so important to support and appreciate each other in relationship! I'm sure your husband feels loved!

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    1. Thank you for commenting ! I’m blessed to have such an amazing partnership with him

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  12. A really nice post. We all have habit of taking our love one for granted and miss to praise each other for playing their properly in a relationship.

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    1. Thank you for commenting! It’s very true. Sometimes we have to remember to take a moment to reflect on our lives, marriage etc so we can fully appreciate our blessings

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  13. Such a great tribute to your husband! It's so important to show appreciation for the family in our lives but somehow that can feel more challenging with the people we are closest too. I'm sure he appreciates hearing this from you!! :-)

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    1. thank you for commenting! it is challenging, i think sometimes we dont feel its necessary because we are already so close to them but its always nice to hear that we are appreciated and that we appreciate them. that small reminder goes a long way

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  14. It's nice to see relationships that work despite any trouble may come. I have one of those hubbies myself.

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    1. thank you for commenting, its very nice and with all the troubles going on in the world my husband should be the least of them =]

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  15. we have to truly appreciate all the people in our lives and not take them for granted.. your post is a wonderful tribute to your husband and to that emotion

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    1. thank you for commenting! i am so grateful for him. these words barely describe the amount of love i have for him.

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  16. This is so sweet! You're lucky to have a such a good man in your life!

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    1. thank you for commenting! i am very lucky! thank you. its a great blessing

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  17. What a cute but raw loving post to your hubby. I hope to have a husband that loves me as much as yours loves you.

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    1. thank you for commenting! just pray on it. it will happen. =]

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  18. This is a great tribute to your awesome husband. Congrats on having a great man.

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    1. thank you for commenting! and thank you. i have been very fortunate.

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  19. Such a lovely post. Is so important for us to have a lovely husbands who are helping us and support

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    1. thank you for commenting. it is truly important. in a marriage i believe it necessary to support each other
      and communicate.

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  20. Aw, What a touching post! Awesome that you feel so strongly towards your man, that you made a whole post! Love surely is kind. Thanks for sharing! :)

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    1. thank you for commenting! i really do have such strong emotion towards him. him and i changed our lives around and it really seems to benefit our whole family especially our children.

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  21. This is such a great post to honor your partner! I'm sure he is very appreciative too!

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    1. thank you for commenting ! he is very appreciative and supportive. i love him to pieces !

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  22. It's a great post one that reminds us to thank the fathers. We always keep talking about moms and rightly so because we do so much. But that doesn't mean dads don't do as much. Thank you for this post and good to know that you have such a caring partner.

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    1. Thank you for commenting ! Mother’s and fathers play such different roles but are so equally important.

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  23. Sounds like a keeper. My husband too is a hard worker and I need to remember to not to complain about those socks.

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  24. I love to see marriages that are true partnerships and ti sounds like yours is. This is an awesome 'love letter'.

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  25. This was so sweet! It seems like you have a really wonderful marriage!

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  26. Such a sweet post! You are so lucky to have someone as amazing as your husband!

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  27. What a fantastic post for your man! It sounds like you work so well together as a team and he always has your back.

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  28. Great post! It is important in every relationship to acknowledge the things that we do not only for each other but for the family. Roles are a bit reversed in our household as my husband stays home and I work full time and have a side business.

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  29. This is wonderful! Sometimes I take my husband for granted. He works incredibly hard to provide for us. While we both work equal hours, his days are 8 to 5 and mine are 8 to 7. neither with no lunch hour, I know he still works much harder than me, He delivers water and I manage a dry cleaners. So to the men in our life I raise a glass for them!

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  30. This is so awesome! Sounds like he is a lucky guy to have you around too!

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  31. I love this tribute to your husband! I often feel the same way! Mine works hard all day long to provide us financial security, so he deserves to relax!

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  32. Such a beautiful post! Adorable tribute! He is a lucky man to have you and you lucky to have him!

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  33. what a wonderful and insightful post !!! he is certainly very lucky to have you and vice versa :) it is important to value and acknowledge the hard work

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  34. What a beautiful post! We should all give them a great big kiss and hug for the Father's day coming up. I love you dad!

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  35. I love this! I sometimes forget this as well. Great article!

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  36. This is so true! I really needed to read this. I am going to think of your post the next time I have my mental rant about how little my husband does.

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  37. I am glad that you took the time to appreciate everything that your partner had ever done for you and I can see that you both work extremely hard. He must have been so touched by your beautiful words.

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  38. Aw, this is amazing. You are sweet and the words are beautiful. I am single so I look up to my Dad who gives everything he has for his family, us.

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